Difference Between Exploitation and Submission?

When I wrote the post about women liking gay porn, there was a topic I didn’t feel I could get into without making post twice as long. So here we are: Two posts!

One of the theories as to why women might prefer gay porn over straight porn is that gay porn feels less exploitative than straight, male/female porn. There are fairly rigid gender roles in most straight porn whereby females exist for the pleasure of males. Female bodies are the ones that are put on display; men are often edited out of the scene altogether (except for their cocks), and sex is usually something that is done to the females, not with them.

Doubling Down on Mentorship

That’s a terrible title, but you’ll see where it came from later on.

I wrote a post a while ago in which I took the very brave stance that mentors should not sexually harass their protégés, and that they should do their best to remember this sage advice any time they get attention from someone of the “right” sex/orientation*. It’s probably not because that person wants to join genitals with you, it’s because you’re a mentor and people are naturally going to look up to you.

News Coverage of Spring Break in America

I don’t know if Spring Break is something that’s “celebrated” all over the world, but they make a big deal out of it here in North America. It’s a week in the Spring that colleges and universities around the country take off so that the students can prepare for exams. By which I mean: drive to Florida, strip down to bikinis, get shitfaced, and have lots of sex. Of course, if you look for pictures of Spring Break you’ll mostly see white kids, for reasons I’ve discussed before.

Mentorship

Today we’re dipping into the Impenitent Porn Lover mailbag and answering some reader mail. Oh look, here’s a good one:

Dear Thinking Inside Your Box:

Remember when you wrote about how porn impacts our view of women? Or your post on feminism? Or that weird post you wrote about control groups and carrots? What would happen if you were to combine those together into one post?

Sincerely yours,
Thinking Inside Your Box Pretending to be a Reader

An excellent question, astute reader! It would probably look something like this:

I’ve never mentioned what type of work I do (and doubt I ever will), but it’s one of those twenty-first century jobs enabled by the computerized revolution, where people can make shitloads of money without hardly even trying and kids in their early twenties suddenly have nearly limitless expense accounts at their disposal. Not to toot my own horn, but it’s also a job I’m pretty fucking good at.

Rape Culture

Although I just wrote a post in which I admitted that I enjoy rape porn, I also tried to make it clear that I’m against actual rape. Not that I’m trying to claim I’m a good person, I’m not, but even a terrible person can be against rape. (I’m half tempted to get t-shirts printed up with that message: “Even a terrible person can be against rape.”) In fact, saying that I’m against rape should be a no-brainer.

Feminism (long)

Alternate Title: Feminism? (long)

Let’s go back in history for a second. Waaaay back. Not quite to the primordial soup, but almost. People who subscribe to the theory of evolution – many Americans don’t but most of the civilized world does – believe that for much of human history, the vast majority of it, we lived in a world which was harsh and unforgiving, in which the strength of men was needed to protect women and children from the elements and from predators. Men slew beasts, built shelter, and mastered fire. (Actually it doesn’t necessarily have to have been men who mastered fire, it could have been women, but we usually lump the mastery of fire along with the slaying of beasts and building of shelter and whatnot.) Later on men also mastered the art and science of farming, to which women may very well have contributed but it took a lot of muscle power to make it happen, so it was still very much a male-dominated type of work.