Dating Sites

As a married man, I’m limited in the online dating sites I can use: If I want to go looking for women who want to fuck, pretty much my only option is Ashley Madison.

As an aside, you might have assumed that a married man wouldn’t need a dating site; that dating is no longer necessary once one is married. After all, isn’t that the point of dating? To find someone to marry? If you’re thinking that you’re probably female, because men know that there’s another reason – perhaps the prime reason – for dating, which is to fuck. And married men like to fuck too, and don’t always need their fuck partner to be their spouse.

Porn’s Impact on the [Teenaged] Brain

Remember when I wrote about porn being addictive? And not just addictive, but addictive in a way that alters the fundamental makeup of our brains? And remember when I said that the effects are worse on younger folks because it catches their brains at a crucial formative point in their development?

The Stats on Internet Porn

Did you know that 1 in 3 porn viewers are women? (I thought it would be higher.)

Are People Who Consume Porn More Likely to Cheat?

Wait, does anyone not consume porn?

I’ve written before about an article showing that people who consume porn have more sex, and my overall attitude about it was, “Duh! We watch porn, among other things, because we like sex – so of course we partake in it as well, we don’t just watch it!”

Misconceptions About Sex

I’ve written before about porn’s impact on us, and how it shapes our views on sex. I’m not the only one thinking about this: it’s not exactly a scientific study, but a thread on reddit asked women what they’d “learned” from porn that turned out to be untrue.

People Who Watch More Porn Have More Sex

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How Porn Impacts Us, Part 6: The “So What”

I work in an industry where I tend to do a lot of writing reports and giving presentations, and I’m often asked to distil complex topics down to simple concepts. When I’m preparing such reports or presentations a phrase I often hear is that I need to “get to the ‘so what’.” In other words, it’s all well and good to explain complex concepts in simple ways and educate my readers, but the main thing they’ll care about is, “So what? How does this impact me?”

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 5: What About People of Colour?

Wow, this series just won’t die, huh? Why am I still blathering on about this instead of writing about, I don’t know, the sublime sensation (or sight) of a cockhead inserting itself between pussy lips? (Or anal sphincter?) Who knows? (Answer to rhetorical question: not me.) 

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 4: Attitudes Toward Women

The last post in the “How Porn Impacts Us” series was long. Long! It was really, really long. 

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 3 (long): “Context”

I’m not sure I would have chosen the title Context for this post – though context is part of what I’ll be talking about – but I’m writing at least in part in reaction to a post from Danny Wylde with the same title on Boinkology so I’ll go with it. This is not a direct response to Danny’s post, I’m not trying to start an argument, but we’re coming at an issue from different angles, and, yes, there are some things in the post I disagree with. (It’s just as well that I’m not trying to start an argument, since I doubt Mr. Wylde will ever see this in the first place. An argument with only one participant is a lonely argument indeed.)

I’ve been writing about porn’s impact on us (from a purely amateur, “armchair sociologist” point of view), and I don’t think any discussion of porn’s impact on society would be complete without a discussion on whether and how our consumption of porn impacts our views on sex. Do the images and videos we see on our laptops and tablets and smartphones colour the way we think about or carry out activities in the bedroom? Do the depictions of sex we consume impact our views of the real thing?

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 2: Addiction

In part 1 of this series I wrote a bunch of nebulous crap about control groups and pseudo-science, and wrote very little about actual porn. This despite the fact that I joked about three pornstars opening a “clinic” where they give away free sex, which would have been a great jumping-off point for a fantasy at the very least.

Now let’s talk about a topic that many people probably think about when they ponder the effects of porn on society: addiction. Is porn addictive? And if so, how does the addiction play out – what are the symptoms?

How Porn Impacts Us

Hint: We don’t know.

Let’s talk about control. No, not in a sexual context – maybe later, my pretties – I mean in a scientific context. We’ll start with an example.