REDACTED

There’s only one person in real life that I’ve told about this blog. I didn’t tell her the name or address of it, just that I’m writing a blog about porn. The reason I told her is that we have a shared history of nefarious blogging, so one day when she asked me if I’ll ever blog again, I told her. And yes, if you’re curious about a girl who has a history of nefarious blogging, she is hot (though she’s not my type anymore – she knows why).

The Number 23

This post is not related to porn so if you’re a purist and only come to this blog for my musings on pornography you can skip it. But one of the side effects of porn is that it tends to whet your appetite for the real thing. That is: you can only consume so much porn before you want to go and do some actual fucking. Have your own sex, instead of watching others do it for you.

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 6: The “So What”

I work in an industry where I tend to do a lot of writing reports and giving presentations, and I’m often asked to distil complex topics down to simple concepts. When I’m preparing such reports or presentations a phrase I often hear is that I need to “get to the ‘so what’.” In other words, it’s all well and good to explain complex concepts in simple ways and educate my readers, but the main thing they’ll care about is, “So what? How does this impact me?”

Porn and Remembrance

Author’s Note: Why would I name this post with a pun based on a book so few people have read? Sure, it works thematically, but nobody will get the joke but me...

In a previous post from the “My History With Porn” series I mentioned my early history with pornographic magazines, and the fact that my mom found them at one point and made me get rid of them. After that I got “smart,” and going forward any time I came across new magazines I did a better job of hiding them: I’d rip out the “good parts,” and then insert them into the middle of a Mad Magazine. I had a billion issues of Mad, so it was easy to just slip this particular issue into the middle of the pile.

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 5: What About People of Colour?

Wow, this series just won’t die, huh? Why am I still blathering on about this instead of writing about, I don’t know, the sublime sensation (or sight) of a cockhead inserting itself between pussy lips? (Or anal sphincter?) Who knows? (Answer to rhetorical question: not me.) 

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 4: Attitudes Toward Women

The last post in the “How Porn Impacts Us” series was long. Long! It was really, really long. 

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 3 (long): “Context”

I’m not sure I would have chosen the title Context for this post – though context is part of what I’ll be talking about – but I’m writing at least in part in reaction to a post from Danny Wylde with the same title on Boinkology so I’ll go with it. This is not a direct response to Danny’s post, I’m not trying to start an argument, but we’re coming at an issue from different angles, and, yes, there are some things in the post I disagree with. (It’s just as well that I’m not trying to start an argument, since I doubt Mr. Wylde will ever see this in the first place. An argument with only one participant is a lonely argument indeed.)

I’ve been writing about porn’s impact on us (from a purely amateur, “armchair sociologist” point of view), and I don’t think any discussion of porn’s impact on society would be complete without a discussion on whether and how our consumption of porn impacts our views on sex. Do the images and videos we see on our laptops and tablets and smartphones colour the way we think about or carry out activities in the bedroom? Do the depictions of sex we consume impact our views of the real thing?

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 2: Addiction

In part 1 of this series I wrote a bunch of nebulous crap about control groups and pseudo-science, and wrote very little about actual porn. This despite the fact that I joked about three pornstars opening a “clinic” where they give away free sex, which would have been a great jumping-off point for a fantasy at the very least.

Now let’s talk about a topic that many people probably think about when they ponder the effects of porn on society: addiction. Is porn addictive? And if so, how does the addiction play out – what are the symptoms?

How Porn Impacts Us

Hint: We don’t know.

Let’s talk about control. No, not in a sexual context – maybe later, my pretties – I mean in a scientific context. We’ll start with an example.

What’s the Deal With Wet Girls?

I don’t understand why porn has such a fascination with wet girls.

Porn (And Sex) in the 21st Century

To a certain extent this post is a “me too” post, piling on to what Jamal Registre said in a post on Boinkology 101. (Boinkology 101 is Lux Alptraum’s new blog, and I’ll be following it closely. It promises to be quite interesting.) Registre’s main point (if I may oversimplify) is that his phone is so tied into every facet of his life – including his sex life – that he’s having trouble learning how to cope with the new technology. Or, at the very least, integrate it with his sex life. I especially like the anecdote about him setting the phone down at work only to have the phone’s Live Tile feature start displaying his sex pics for his colleagues to see. I can easily see that happening.

And I feel his pain.

Rape Culture

Although I just wrote a post in which I admitted that I enjoy rape porn, I also tried to make it clear that I’m against actual rape. Not that I’m trying to claim I’m a good person, I’m not, but even a terrible person can be against rape. (I’m half tempted to get t-shirts printed up with that message: “Even a terrible person can be against rape.”) In fact, saying that I’m against rape should be a no-brainer.

Porn I Like: Rape

So I’ll just admit it up front rather than working up to it: I like rape porn. This includes porn in comic, story, or even live action form (when done well). I think this is an extension of the fact that I like the rough stuff, taking it to yet another level, but I couldn’t say for sure.

Why Do We Like Porn?

Did you ever do that thing where you think about a particular word or phrase for so long it starts to lose all meaning? Think about the word... well, the word “word.” Just mull that one word over in your head for a bit.

Word... word... word... word... Word is, actually, a word, which, were I smoking pot right now, would probably blow my mind. Word word word. Wordwordwordword. Word is actually “sword” but without the ‘s’.

If you keep thinking about it long enough the word “word” will stop meaning anything, and you’ll sort of have to reboot your mind, and think about something else for a while before coming back to it to remember that “word” is actually a word that has meaning.

Reasons Porn is Better Than Sex: Food Court Woman

It’s remarkable how similar this post is to a previous one. And frankly, since there’s still no actual sex in this post, these titles are getting more and more misleading as time goes by.

I was having a semi-work-related meeting with a colleague in a food court close to the office. We were sipping our iced drinks from Starbucks, talking about some personal issues and some work issues and just generally avoiding work before a long weekend. As we talked my eye wandered to an attractive woman lugging a large shoulder bag and a shopping bag in our general direction. To my surprise, she sat at a table right by us, though there were plenty of open tables around. It was sort of like this:

Line Between Fantasy and Deviant Perversion?

I sometimes write posts on this blog about Porn I Like and Porn I Dislike (not to mention Porn I’m Indifferent To). When I write about porn I dislike I usually include the following introduction:

There are definitely types of porn that I do not like – that I dislike. One could even go so far as to say that I hate some types of porn. If I ever have any blog readers there may well be disagreements; porn which they love and have a fetish for but that I think is gross or sick or disgusting. They may think the same thing about porn that I like. All I can say to that is: I’m right, you’re wrong, get over it.

That last sentence is the most important part of the introduction, even though it’s mostly (but not completely) tongue in cheek. I’m definitely going to put it to the test in this post and some future ones I’m thinking of writing.

Thin Girls

I’m not going to lie, I like thin girls. I fully realize that our emphasis on being skinny is problematic for women and girls in our society, that we’re giving them terrible body image issues with our emphasis on being thin, but it doesn’t change the fact that I prefer thin girls over fat ones. I am part of the problem, I admit it.

Weird... But Kind of Fun, I Think

I found a video on Vimeo from Cédric BLAISBOIS which is worth a watch, even if it’s not your usual thing.

Porn I Dislike: Gay

There are definitely types of porn that I do not like – that I dislike. One could even go so far as to say that I hate some types of porn. If I ever have any blog readers there may well be disagreements; porn which they love and have a fetish for but that I think is gross or sick or disgusting. They may think the same thing about porn that I like. All I can say to that is: I’m right, you’re wrong, get over it.

It may be surprising, or it may not, that I’m not into gay stuff. When I was a bit younger no straight guys were into gay porn, only gay guys were. I have a feeling that might be evolving and there may be more men exploring gay porn, whether out of interest or just purely out of curiosity. Or dudes are just confused by the whole “emo” thing, which is 90% gay but doesn’t call itself that. Either way, it’s not something I’m into.

To be clear, this isn’t some kind of statement, or moral objection. I don’t expect to impress anyone with my straightness, and I don’t judge anyone for being gay or being interested in gay porn. Actually, it would be easier if I were into dudes (gay or bi), because it would be easier to get laid. (I used to live in the gay neighbourhood of my city, and I got hit on a lot. I’m just sayin, I must have a great ass. That’s how it works, right?)

I also don’t plan on meeting any of my readers, so I don’t need to impress any of you. I’m just an anonymous Blogger account, not a real dude.

The gay thing doesn’t turn me on and neither do it’s different incarnations, meaning that I’m also not into bisexul porn. I’m seeing quite a bit of it lately, where there’s some kind of group sex going on with various people fucking and sucking – I love the whole orgy thing – and there will be a guy sucking another guy’s dick, and it kinda turns me off. Or there’ll be some cuck-related porn with a caption that the girl wants her husband to come and eat the cum out of her pussy; that turns me off too.

Actually, any idea of a guy eating cum turns me off. That could be the reason I never tried harder at #autofellatio; the idea of getting a free blowjob whenever I want is appealing, but not the idea of swallowing my own cum.

And let’s be honest: A blowjob where the cum isn’t swallowed? It’s just not as good.

Reasons Porn is Better Than Sex: Real Women Don’t Have Sex on the Subway

I was on the subway a while ago, watching TV on my phone but glancing up to scope out the women getting on whenever we stopped. (Don’t think that I was just doing this because I'm a porn connoisseur, and therefore a pervert. The reality is that I was doing it because I’m a dude, and we all do this. Some of us are more subtle about it than others, but we all do it.)