How Young is Too Young to Become a Pornstar?

Before I even begin, let me just say that I universally use the term “pornstar” for anyone who acts in porn; I don’t differentiate between the really popular actors and the lesser known ones. If you take your clothes off and/or fuck for the camera, you’re a star to me.

I’ve written before that I hate child porn, so obviously I think that a person can be too young to get into porn. But the obvious question then follows: How young is too young? What should be the cutoff age?

Racism Again: The Asian Fetish Revisited

I write about race a lot on this blog, hey? Considering the fact that I’m a middle-aged white guy living in North America, I bet there are people out there – mostly white people – who wouldn’t want me to talk about race because they don’t think I know what I’m talking about. If I were black they wouldn’t want me to talk about race because I’d be playing the “race card.” If I were South Asian, or East Asian, or black, or aboriginal, or anything other than white, they wouldn’t want me to talk about race because I’d be biased.

Multitasking

Lots of people can multitask, but I can’t. Unfortunately I don’t learn from my mistakes, so I keep making them over and over.

Delivery to the Following Recipient Failed Permanently

My sex life goes up and down. (No pun intended.) Sometimes I’m chasing half a dozen women (and letting them chase me), having sex with escorts, hunting down dates on Ashley Madison or in bars, exchanging photos with internet hotties, and just generally getting my dick wet wherever and whenever I can. Other times things are pretty slow and I’m just living my life and enjoying my job.

Juicy

I admit the fact that I’m a pervert. In fact I admit it on a regular basis, here on the blog, in writing. So there are times, in my regular, day-to-day life, when somebody says something perfectly innocent and I take it in a dirty way and inwardly smirk. Sometimes it’s just plain childish, and sometimes I’m surprised by my own perversion when I think everyone will be smiling but nobody gets the joke other than me.

Reasons Porn is Better Than Sex: Dating Sites Suck (Part 2)

When I say that porn is better than sex, I’m being somewhat tongue in cheek. (If you’d like to put your tongue in my cheek please leave a comment. Also, please be female. And hot.) Obviously I prefer fucking over watching people fuck, although I have to admit that watching people fuck is a helluva lot more convenient.

I’ve written before about the problem of ratio in dating sites: There are tons of dudes, not so many females, and it changes the nature of the game. When girls are getting a billion messages every day they start to get snowed under and have trouble paying proper attention to each one. At the same time all the attention makes them feel very wanted, so they can become choosy, looking for the “perfect man.” One can’t blame them.

Some Fun, Cheezy Porn Parodies

This one was a lot of fun to write. Well, not so much to write, but to research.

College Hookup Culture?

There was a recent New York Times article talking about the college hookup culture in America. Based on isolated cases (which they take to be representative) and misrepresented statistics, the Times writer comes to the conclusion that the college-aged youth of the US are eschewing relationships in favour of random sex with strangers, or purely physical relationships based on sex but no romantic or emotional connection. Better still (from my point of view), it’s not just white dudes doing it, but this phenomenon crosses genders and races – everyone is taking part in the new hookup culture! Especially emphasized is the fact that girls are into this hookup culture too. (This is accompanied by a bit of hand wringing about the fact that these poor, deluded girls might not be able to find husbands.)

REDACTED

There’s only one person in real life that I’ve told about this blog. I didn’t tell her the name or address of it, just that I’m writing a blog about porn. The reason I told her is that we have a shared history of nefarious blogging, so one day when she asked me if I’ll ever blog again, I told her. And yes, if you’re curious about a girl who has a history of nefarious blogging, she is hot (though she’s not my type anymore – she knows why).

The Number 23

This post is not related to porn so if you’re a purist and only come to this blog for my musings on pornography you can skip it. But one of the side effects of porn is that it tends to whet your appetite for the real thing. That is: you can only consume so much porn before you want to go and do some actual fucking. Have your own sex, instead of watching others do it for you.

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 6: The “So What”

I work in an industry where I tend to do a lot of writing reports and giving presentations, and I’m often asked to distil complex topics down to simple concepts. When I’m preparing such reports or presentations a phrase I often hear is that I need to “get to the ‘so what’.” In other words, it’s all well and good to explain complex concepts in simple ways and educate my readers, but the main thing they’ll care about is, “So what? How does this impact me?”

Porn and Remembrance

Author’s Note: Why would I name this post with a pun based on a book so few people have read? Sure, it works thematically, but nobody will get the joke but me...

In a previous post from the “My History With Porn” series I mentioned my early history with pornographic magazines, and the fact that my mom found them at one point and made me get rid of them. After that I got “smart,” and going forward any time I came across new magazines I did a better job of hiding them: I’d rip out the “good parts,” and then insert them into the middle of a Mad Magazine. I had a billion issues of Mad, so it was easy to just slip this particular issue into the middle of the pile.

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 5: What About People of Colour?

Wow, this series just won’t die, huh? Why am I still blathering on about this instead of writing about, I don’t know, the sublime sensation (or sight) of a cockhead inserting itself between pussy lips? (Or anal sphincter?) Who knows? (Answer to rhetorical question: not me.) 

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 4: Attitudes Toward Women

The last post in the “How Porn Impacts Us” series was long. Long! It was really, really long. 

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 3 (long): “Context”

I’m not sure I would have chosen the title Context for this post – though context is part of what I’ll be talking about – but I’m writing at least in part in reaction to a post from Danny Wylde with the same title on Boinkology so I’ll go with it. This is not a direct response to Danny’s post, I’m not trying to start an argument, but we’re coming at an issue from different angles, and, yes, there are some things in the post I disagree with. (It’s just as well that I’m not trying to start an argument, since I doubt Mr. Wylde will ever see this in the first place. An argument with only one participant is a lonely argument indeed.)

I’ve been writing about porn’s impact on us (from a purely amateur, “armchair sociologist” point of view), and I don’t think any discussion of porn’s impact on society would be complete without a discussion on whether and how our consumption of porn impacts our views on sex. Do the images and videos we see on our laptops and tablets and smartphones colour the way we think about or carry out activities in the bedroom? Do the depictions of sex we consume impact our views of the real thing?

How Porn Impacts Us, Part 2: Addiction

In part 1 of this series I wrote a bunch of nebulous crap about control groups and pseudo-science, and wrote very little about actual porn. This despite the fact that I joked about three pornstars opening a “clinic” where they give away free sex, which would have been a great jumping-off point for a fantasy at the very least.

Now let’s talk about a topic that many people probably think about when they ponder the effects of porn on society: addiction. Is porn addictive? And if so, how does the addiction play out – what are the symptoms?

How Porn Impacts Us

Hint: We don’t know.

Let’s talk about control. No, not in a sexual context – maybe later, my pretties – I mean in a scientific context. We’ll start with an example.

What’s the Deal With Wet Girls?

I don’t understand why porn has such a fascination with wet girls.

Porn (And Sex) in the 21st Century

To a certain extent this post is a “me too” post, piling on to what Jamal Registre said in a post on Boinkology 101. (Boinkology 101 is Lux Alptraum’s new blog, and I’ll be following it closely. It promises to be quite interesting.) Registre’s main point (if I may oversimplify) is that his phone is so tied into every facet of his life – including his sex life – that he’s having trouble learning how to cope with the new technology. Or, at the very least, integrate it with his sex life. I especially like the anecdote about him setting the phone down at work only to have the phone’s Live Tile feature start displaying his sex pics for his colleagues to see. I can easily see that happening.

And I feel his pain.

Rape Culture

Although I just wrote a post in which I admitted that I enjoy rape porn, I also tried to make it clear that I’m against actual rape. Not that I’m trying to claim I’m a good person, I’m not, but even a terrible person can be against rape. (I’m half tempted to get t-shirts printed up with that message: “Even a terrible person can be against rape.”) In fact, saying that I’m against rape should be a no-brainer.